How can winners become losers?
The biggest mistake of a winner is considering themselves a winner – now this could get a little complicated because i don’t think considering yourself a winner is bad, it is more to do with what people consider a winner to actually be:
‘Somebody who has achieved’ is the definition of a winner that i think should be left behind, discarded and forgotten. Somebody who ‘has done’ hard work and ‘has achieved’ a goal.
‘Somebody who is achieving’ is what i would consider a winner. This is somebody who is ‘putting in’ hard work and ‘is achieving’ goals continuously.
A seemingly pedantic approach, i know, but the difference between these two views of what a winner really is, is the difference between: ongoing hard work and knocking off a bit after you’ve managed to do something you think is wuite good.
“Winners are most often found in losing situations!”
Once you’ve won, you can ease up on yourself – you’ve reached your goal afterall. This is what leads to people falling back to where they were (but being here was the issue in the first place).
I reckon an example will help about now:
Somebody realises that they are getting a bit fat, lazy and unmotivated and decide to get involved in martial arts – train, hard, for half a year and book a fight. With this focus they reach a physical and mental peak, compete and win their fight. Excellent (there’s a big shiny trophy and everything). They become a winner the moment the decision is given their way – Champion! Now that they have their trophy, a keepsake of their success, they can slacken off and chill out a bit (no more spinach for lunch or 3 hour cardio sessions), and as a result end up tending back towards where they started off – not long until they’re back to being a bit fat, lazy and unmotivated, except with their shiny reminder of what a champ they are.
*the same often goes with weight loss – people achieve their weight loss goals, ease up and become big fatties again. (Just to clarify, i have nothing against big fatties – in fact i have been known to quite like big fatties.)
So, i think it becomes quite clear that the idea of becoming a winner after achieving a goal isn’t a sustainable way to succeed. In order to continue winning, to sustain that success – the goal should be a change of behaviour – rather than a win, or loosing a certain amount of weight. It’s the day-in-day-out changes in behaviour that lead people towards win fights – the waking up an hour earlier, the extra 10 minutes of cardio, and the stretching before going to bed.
A winner is somebody who keeps up with these little positive actions – this is why a lot of people become loosers as soon as they think they have won, no more positive little behavioural changes.
To conclude, if you want to be a winner then forget winning a fight, a title, loosing a certain amount of weight, etc. Instead, find out what needs to change and make your goal to implement this in your daily behaviour – if you keep these changes up your trophies will stack up, the weight will stay off, and you will continue to win.
“Regularly remind yourself of what makes you a winner – the little changes to your life you decided to make.”
All images display people being real winners, and have been provided by Titan Academy:
Master Luke Robinson