Something, i have come to realise, that is a very useful tool when it comes to getting better at martial arts (or anything for that matter) is the ability to praise yourself.
People who are actively looking for things that they can do, things that thye have improved, and things that they are going to improve almost always shoot forwards in terms of their progress.
Be aware that i am not talking about the whole ‘fake it till you make it’ saying. I don’t think much of that – because of what it is usually interpreted as. Faking it only leads to somebody not doing the years of hard work that is needed to get to where they are pretending they already are.
I think it is a matter of ‘you get what you are seeking’. Not what you want, not what your aims are, not even what you put effort into.
It’s the little day-to-day things that you are seeking (nothing big), if you are always seeking the positives in the small situations you’ll find them – they add up, of course, and become the big things that most people aim for.
It is always important to focus on positivity and to stay away from negativity – so much so that even talking about how you stay away from negativity is just a distraction from what will actually help you get to where you want to be. I almost didn’t want to write this paragraph because it discusses negativity and draws people’s attention to it but… i have written it – Fuck negativity.
But, like i said – it’s a bit more than just positivity. It’s the seek of it; trying things to see what you can do and how you can improve, learning, watching and being creative.
With a progressive and positive attitude you’ll soar – and, no matter who they are or what they do, with this approach you’ll help the people around you progress too (although it is common for them not to notice or appreciate it) – but that’s all good because you won’t notice because all you’re attention is focussed on finding the next bit of positivity!
So praise yourself, for everything – and tell people about the things you do well. Be like a child, in that respect. It is often hard for people to tell others about how well they do things – but it is a really good thing to do.
Like me with my taekwondo, and my ability to teach it, i am very good at them both. Like the drive and passion i have for taekwondo, martial arts and fitness – i use this passion to connect with and befriend people. Like the infinite determination i have to reach out to people using martial arts and my ability to tuck my chin in, clench my teeth, and just keep going through anything!
Tell someone, or some public forum what you do well – little bits of positivity!
This is something i have picked up along my time training and striving for greatness – it may well be different for others.
* All pictures have been provided by Titan Academy – http://www.TitanTaekwondo.com *
Master Luke Robinson